Notices tagged with adhd

Fuuuuuuck....
Remember back in early April, my close friend passed?
I was supposed to relay info about the services to one of my roommates who was also a good friend of Sarah's.
I just now learned I lost that message down the AuDHD memory hole.
Fuck, I feel like an absolute ass.
😢️
That wasn't intentional AT ALL!

#AuDHD #ADHD

Honestly I think I’ve found the most hilariously effective #ADHD anxiety fix ever.

When I find my brain starting a worry spiral, I take the topic that’s causing it, and write it on a dedicated to-do list.

The ADHD then takes care of that by never, ever thinking about it again.

#ADHD Torch Theory

I like it. Unfortunately the name is catchy but misleading here in the US. We call them flashlights

🔦

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8MwETXD/

Just realized why HF #ADHD folks make great PMs & entrepreneurs.

We spend years building systems to manage our executive dysfunction: frameworks, principles, data etc.

Imagine climbing with boulders to your waist — mastering technique is your only hope.

When we manage, we apply the same systems to folks without that weight, so they FLY.

Add the diverse skillsets, innovative thinking, hyperfocus, pattern recognition, and it’s shooting through the sky like a tiger defying the laws of gravity!

My friend made this cool #accessibility tool for people who experience selective mutism. If this is you or someone you know please check out their Communication Cards at
https://demdev.cc/products.html

#autism #adhd #aphasia #disabiliy

As an ADHDer, I have a “busy” mind, and I always have a “to do/buy/project” list, in my mind &/or written down. And on a good day, I can get a lot done, leaving me feeling very accomplished.

As an ADHDer, I can be easily distracted, resulting in lots of unfinished or not even started tasks, resulting in a sense of failure & sometimes, panic. I can put things down and forget where I left them, leaving a trail of clutter in my wake.

As an ADHDer, I like change. I have had a variety of jobs and studied a range of courses. I like dealing with people, getting to know different types of people from a range of backgrounds & life experiences. And I love travel. I’ve studied people all of my life, formally & informally, not just in an attempt to work myself out and try to fit in, but because I find people fascinating.

As an autistic person, I like to know what’s going on, so that I can be prepared and organised. I don’t mind surprises if they don’t result in sudden, significant, unanticipated and highly disruptive changes in plans.

I also find clutter difficult to process and sometimes overwhelming. (Think all those fluoro pricing tickets in Chemist Warehouse.) I like my house to look lived in, comfortable, not like a hotel room, but not wholly cluttered.

Crowds, certain types of noise & loud noises, bright & or flashing lights and chemical smells can be unpleasant, overwhelming and even distressing. “Participating” in a crowd, such as in an audience or a protest march is different, because I know the “rules”, and we all have the same purpose. I feel like I belong, to some extent.

Being both ADHD & autistic can be …interesting. Sometimes one will balance out the worst aspects of the other. Sometimes the best aspects of both work brilliantly together. Sometimes they clash confusingly in ways that leave ourselves & others wondering wtf.

@actuallyautistic
#actuallyautistic
#ADHD
#AuADHD

I did not know that #JoynerLucas was coming out with #ADHD2 TBH

I really loved #ADHD so I wonder if I’ll like the sequel

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fEaQxbMfnWI

Ugh. I did not enjoy hearing Vaush insist you could stop being #ActuallyAutistic by changing behaviors, thus not meeting the criteria anynore, and boom, no longer autistic.
I did NOT expect that from him.
He says the same for #ADHD.

Make those lists harder, practice that eye contact, you can be cured if you try! - oh sorry, he didn't say "cured", he said "not have it anymore". He was very adament on being clear which he of those he specifically said.

Folks with #ADHD:

Do you find you can be extremely aware of tiny signals (i.e. "the dishwasher doesn't sound quite right", "I wonder if she's recently pregnant, her walk has changed"), but oblivious to social cues which depend on tiny signals (i.e. "is she flirting with me, or just more friendly than average?")?

Wondering if it's me, or an ADHD thing.

Analog TVs put off a high-pitched whine that apparently only dogs and I can hear. German analog TVs have a louder whine than American ones. When I lived in Germany as a kid, I could walk into a house and tell you if the TV was on even if the TV wasn't in my line of sight and the volume was muted.

My parents have a grandfather clock that used to keep me awake at night all the way on the other side of the house with my bedroom door shut.

#ADHD
#BrainPermanentlyOn

cc @ZenHeathen

Need some #fedihelp - I’m writing up my PhD and my demand avoidant little brain is fighting me every step of the way. Any #AuDHD / #adhd havers want to suggest something, anything, I might not have tried yet? I have a vast toolkit and know my head really well but right now we are facing each other like two screaming possums.

[edit: if this is also you there is a WEALTH of advice in the comments, fedi is awesome]

Quick, #ADHD #AuDHD people - who downloaded that meme about how ADHD people can make something disappear forever? I NEED IT. My mom STILL doesn't understand

#ADHD is doing a bunch of extra work fixing a server because "OOH! UPDATES!" has me skipping over the "breaking changes" section that would have told me how to avoid my shit being all bonkers.

The term #AuDHD has me thinking of the old Recesse ad like
"Hey! You got ADHD in my Autism!"
"And you got Autism in my #ADHD!"

🤣️

#ActuallyAutistic
#ActuallyADHD

@actuallyautistic

Folks who experience PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance):

What does PDA feel like to you?

And a follow-up question: What kind of parents did you have? How did they communicate responsibilities and chores to you?

Quite often, when someone suggests something to me - like "we should do X" - even if X is something I might normally enjoy - I feel tense, and there's this "ugggggh" knee-jerk reaction in my head. An instant resistance to doing the thing.

I was mulling it over this morning, and it occurred to me that my parents were very authoritarian. "When I say jump, you say how high" was a common refrain in my childhood household.

I often didn't have a choice and was guilted and forced into doing things I didn't want to do. Not in abusive ways, but... for example, I often didn't want to go to my grandma's house for holidays, which I now realize was because it was incredibly overstimulating. She lived in a small house, and they would cram 30+ people in there. The noises, the smells, having to interact with aunts and uncles... I just didn't want to go. But I didn't have a choice.

So I learned early on that when something is "asked" of me, I don't have a choice.

I wonder if PDA - for me, or for others, or in general - comes from childhood experiences like that, where we are conditioned to deeply believe we don't have a choice. So when things are suggested or requested of us, it triggers that sense of dread that we _have_ to do something and don't have a choice about it.

#ActuallyAutistic #Neurodivergent #AuDHD #ADHD

Dammit. This is me.😫

#Anxiety #Depression #Neurodivergent #ADHD #ADHDMemes

Net overgestapt van X naar hier. Klaar met algoritmes, klaar voor echtheid.
Benieuwd naar de gesprekken, de mensen en de vibe hier op Mastodon.
Wie is er nog meer recent overgestapt?

#Introductie #Mastodon #NieuwHier #ADHD #Innovatie

Productivity Peak

#adhd #meme #adhdmeme #adhs

We are said to "struggle to understand neurotypical social norms". Maybe so. But I very often understand these so-called "norms", and reject them. I don't "miss" them, I refuse to participate: it's distasteful & it makes me feel dirty, so I don't.

You?

#Autism
#ADHD
#AuDHD
#neurodiversity

One of the symptoms of #ADHD is hyper-vigilance, sometimes described as "scanning behavior". That is to say, an evopsych[1] model of the motivational difficulty of ADHD is that in the ancestral environment, while having some people in your village who are able to keep focused on a task is good, you also want to have some people around who are constantly looking around to see what's goin' on everywhere, easily prompted by the environment

[1]: for the record, yes I know this means "pretend"