The expectations part is easy to explain:
A lot of you have main character syndrome and genuinely relish catching a single bad poster/fascist/asshole in your replies because then it's your turn to toss cookies about it. ONE bad actor replying to you ONE time, is not a moderation issue. I name and shame these people, I don't try to burn down my own instance mods and admins because they didn't psychically predict some rando would type some dumb shit in my replies. Block and report exist.