I think I've ID'd my issue with this.
Going out there and saying please give to these starving kids, it's a humanitarian crisis, etc., it is all good and necessary
Also, it's completely compatible with the continued function of this horrible blood machine that is starving children and stealing homes. We can keep that running even as good people of conscience fight to limit the harm.
I want the harm to end. I want these kids to have homes and never know gnawing hunger.