lirazel@soph_sol @thalassa I definitely think that I'm inherently agender! But the experience of being treated as a girl/woman has so shaped me that I have *become* a woman. So that's how I understand gender--on good days as a series of experiences that have shaped me, on bad days as something imposed on me. Sometimes I hate and resent it, sometimes I am fine with it.
But yes, it is similar to the difference between romantic attraction and deep friendship! I have not experienced it, so I don't understand the difference really! My understanding has always been deep friendship + sexual attraction, because that's what makes sense to me. But like you say, people say there's something else going on there! Perhaps I will experience it one day, perhaps I won't!
But yeah, secretly inherent gender instead of gender as experience...sounds super fake to me!
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