@sinvega @AnarchoNinaWrites i remember coming across a whole series on estranged parents' forums on a late-night reading binge and so many things fell into place.
i was going down the article mentally checking boxes for everyone i always felt bad around only to find out, oh, huh.. they were terrible people. the behaviors and beliefs are distressingly common and once you start noticing, you see it in every toxic boomer, chud, hustlebro, cop, politician, &c.
https://www.issendai.com/psychology/estrangement/dysfunctional-beliefs.html