@kaia @p I should add he did see my mom before, typically families visit each other and introduce each other and see if they are compatible.

Now my dad was extremely shy and probably autistic so he didn't talk much but the rest of our family was fine.

Honestly my mother was initially creeped out and sent some cousins and brothers to ask about him and learned he was a good and honest guy, and the family finalized everything while he was oblivious lol