And unless people *seriously* confront the fact that patriarchal society inculcates boys/men to center their sense of self and social standing upon an ability to wield dominance over others and wield violence over others, there is no chance that we can effectively confront and dismantle what is toxic in so much of masculinity.
If you aren't willing to start *there*, the rest of what you do will be meaningless, ineffectual bullshit.