And you know what? While the dresses and the makeup and heels might disgust you because you're so fucking enlightened after working through all of this in your teens, we didn't have time to do that until later.
We've got to go through the same learning and deconstructing of social messaging of femininity that you did.
Only later. But with cis people throwing bigotry, job loss, relationship loss, family loss, murder, and genocidal politicians at us.