@taylan So either you misinterpreted what I wrote or I am indeed using the wrong terms.
What I tried to convey in my original post is with the recent news of Neil Gaiman, someone whose writing I enjoyed a lot, I only need two more people from my past that I admired to come out as awful people.
I was not saying Tori Amos is a "terf" at the moment.
Does this clear things up or do you think I should not use the term at all?
Reading your post above I am not clear on your opinion of that term.