@Aleums @FirstProgenitor the thing that has me convinced this is a devoted rural man whose penis is perfectly normal, beautiful even, is "warm hole." I don't think I've ever heard a woman self apply the word hole unless they're intentionally going for degradation or doing it ironically (Courtney Love style). Fundamentally I think it doesn't resonate because the hole is experienced by the person penetrating, it's just an absence from the perspective of the person penetrated