@kaia @bartholin @lain @Paradox

I know her because I'm into rad feminism, which is anti-porn, and this woman is basically The Coomer Woman of the world.

[[[ One of my annoying long-winded autistic political rants incoming! Feel free to ignore everything under this line. ]]]

I've really got zero issues with it if a woman has a bajillion sex partners in her life, and it doesn't matter if many of them are simultaneous either. I could personally never bond with a woman like that, because I'm a sensitive boi, but if she's genuinely enjoying that lifestyle --not doing risky stuff as some form of complicated self-harm or whatever-- then hey, great for her and none of my biz. :blobcat-thumbsup:

But the highly public way she's going about her lifestyle normalizes coomerism, which is highly worrying to me. Men see this kind of stuff as a justification of sexual deviance. All the more so if it's a woman normalizing it, because then they can say: "See, women actually love this stuff too, if they would just let themselves loose!" And that decreases their empathy towards women who are more sensitive and reserved about sexuality, which is probably the majority of women for one or another reason.

Having grown up with porn, I used to think like that myself. Thank dog I was always a shy and sensitive person who wouldn't have ever dared to cross the boundaries of a girl, but I did believe in the ideology. Growing up in Turkey, I thought the only reason the girls there are so reserved about sexuality is that they're "brainwashed by puritan ideals" since Turkish culture is a bit more sexually conservative overall. It was only much later, as I read anti-porn feminist books and such, that I started to realize women around the planet are often quite sensitive about sexuality not because of some ominous universal puritan brainwashing but due to a variety of factors such as:

- Constant creepy, predatory, harassing and coercive sexual behavior from men turning sexuality into a generally frightening topic for a lot of women.
- Men often starting to request weird things that may be physically uncomfortable, or just feel degrading, once they're in the bedroom, even if they've not been creepy or predatory or such up until that point.
- Simply being on the more sensitive end and thus naturally not wanting physical intimacy with anyone before you can fully emotionally trust them. (I'm like this even though I'm male!)

And ultimately, even if it's because a woman has been brainwashed into puritan morals, you still have to respect her boundaries and it's not OK to shame her or otherwise discriminate against her for having been raised like that...

Sex liberals will start yapping about consent consent consent if you bring up rape culture, but there's always this underlying implication that, if you don't consent to various degrading things, you're really quite boring and probably a pathetic brainwashed prude. And that of course will make people "consent" to things they don't really enjoy. I've consented to being a wage slave for 10 years. That doesn't mean I desired being one. Now I consent to shitty tracking ads being served from my website in exchange for money, even though I hate the ad industry. Consent isn't everything; we need to go beyond, but liberals ain't ready for that discourse.

Thanks for coming to my shiddy TEDx talk.