@freemo Then you could also consider the privilege of absence. During this time when you were pulling yourself up by your bootstraps, did you have additional mouths to feed? Debilitating and uncontrollable medical expenses? Inherited debt? PTSD?
The older I get, the more I notice that people always want to see themselves as the underdog. We accentuate our meager origins while remaining blind to our advantages. I'm as guilty of this as anyone.