I don't want to answer your question because either way it makes me terribly sad. I wish I could say something hopeful or just help you and your family through these times. And yes, there are always exceptions, the ones who get through mostly unharmed. But that wan't the issue. Look to Germany in autumn of 1944, to Russia throughout 2024... what makes you think there can be a difference between populace and regime? Esp, when the regime ousts those who are againts it first: https://www.bbc.com/news/articles/c7049jn5kd3o