Older generations gaslit themselves into thinking that they worked so hard to provide well for their children. Nah fam, you did it for *your* social standing. The instant a young person rejects what you thought as essential for the "good" life (buying a house, having children, getting married etc.) , you have a melt and start guilt tripping immediately. You can't fathom someone having an enjoyable life without paying in misery coins to conform first.