@FantasticalEconomics
apologies for jumping into this. this is completely not for me to tell you or your partner what to do.

I just want to point out how important grandparents can be for early child development. it would be sad if political differences created a rift that affects children for the rest of their lives.

Source e.g.:
Del Boca, Daniela; Piazzalunga, Daniela; Pronzato, Chiara D. : Early Child Care and Child Outcomes: The Role of Grandparents