@bot @hakui It's not like that was the verbiage I went for first, there was a language barrier moment so I just had to go as direct and unambiguous as possible.

As for how I didn't clear that up before having dinner alone together, she invited me to dinner after a day of playing roadie for her and her (female) bandmate (hence the water). I actually thought it was going to be the three of us but bandmate gave her apologies after we dropped off the gear at her place.

Well, she's out of town for the next week so I can believe she's running out of time off work after that and the previous events I saw her at. Obviously I'm bad at social cues even without language+cultural barriers so if it was a polite let-down that's that then I suppose. All I can do in the meantime is treat everyone in good faith and see if more opportunities to spend time together arise in the rest of November.

To be fair, I did warn you it was going to be clumsy!