@wakehamAMR @youronlyone Yep! It does feel that way!
Personally, I will recommend our instance (I'm a moderator (but not the owner)) C.IM and also indieweb.social (although I'm not sure if they're a general topic server or more on tech? ).
I can't remember the two ND/Autistic instances. 😅 I think it is neurodifferent.me.
Or, you can give #Bluesky a try: bsky.app since you're restarting your account (if you've heard of it?)
Hmm… if it interests you, we also tag the groups @-autistics@fedigroups.social and @-actuallyautistic@a.gup.pe (I added a hyphen so they don't get tagged for now). Our fellow autistics might have instances they can recommend also.
If you like, you can also create accounts on each and get the feel, see if it fits. 🙂