@TrevorGoodchild @Humpleupagus @s2208 @Griffith @ArmchairEconomist01 >Friend arrives home from work after 12 hour shift
>Grabs a beer, sits in fav chair, hanging with my brother
>Wife says something, he doesn't hear it... "Huh, hun?"
>No reply, "must not be important", continues to drink beer
>Wife walks up behind his chair, doesn't say a word
>Wife busts an unopened 1-gallon jar of pickles over his head
>"WTF!" huge gash in his head, blood everywhere
>My brother WTF's too.
>Friend throws an ashtray into his own TV, goes outside.
>My brother gets a towel, tries to help
>Wife calls cops, tells them she broke a jar over his head
>Cops show, friend is bleeding bad, they call EMS
>Cops talk to wife, she says she was scared.
>Cops ask how the TV got broke, she says he did it after her attack
>My brother tries to talk to the cops "we don't need your help"
>Cops arrest my friend for DV
>In court, wife says she was afraid
>He'd never struck her in all their time together, over a decade
>My brother testifies to what happened that night
>Friend is found guilty, jail, too violent, no visitation with his kids
>Wife goes for divorce, gets everything

His life was ruined. He lost his job, his kids, everything. She joked about it on facebook. He took to drugs and died a few years ago from the complications. He once said "I should've killed her", I didn't say a word one way or the other in agreement. I wouldn't have blamed him if he did and a prosecutor wouldn't have wanted me on a jury either. I've had friends tell me I got screwed in my divorce but I'm quick remind them it could've been so much worse.