@tillshadeisgone i was missing essential context yes. a close friend approached me last night and told me this post might have actually been part of a long & deep meta which i had no part in and which she was keeping up with. she explained to me what was going on with your instance and you added some here. so apologies if i came off insensitive or shared some arguments with concern-trolls etc. tbh i wouldn't have approached this post if i knew it was part of some meta.

there was a mismatch between what i understood of the original post and the events you were likely subposting. i hope my complaints didn't look like this abusive behavior you speak of, when viewed in that context.
i understood your original post to be talking about blocklists as a mechanism in general, and the equally general reactions to it. it was weird to me how the post went from expressing frustration with complaints to calling those complaints abusive behavior.

yes, hypocrites exist. i understand the dynamic you're describing in your last paragraph: victim blaming and defending the aggressor, selective morality and preaching equal treatment when it benefits bad faith actors, all that jazz.
the kind of upset i was talking about and the kind of upset that came with the abuse you faced are nothing alike. i'm not making a point against deplatforming racists or isolating them, and i'm not minimizing the risk of instances which express the full intent of endangering vulnerable people under the notion of some free speech absolutism. we don't disagree on having to address systemic injustices rather than pretending they no longer exist.

i am genuinely glad to see people trying to carve out spaces where systemically vulnerable people are protected.
a community like yours exists local to me and i am part of it, so i understand the need for protective tools regardless of philosophical objections. hell, my local community is on discord and i think both of us understand how much that's an ass place to build a community in, but it is what enabled the community to survive & thrive, so be it.

i don't appreciate the analogy you drew in your last paragraph onto "a lot of people" while quoting me. i will choose to assume good faith with it nonetheless and we can talk about it maybe in a different less charged context. there's lots of criticism about blocklists which isn't destructive and/or hypocritical.
or we can just disengage here at this point. hopefully with no hard feelings.