@tillshadeisgone sure if u need a tool, even if it's crude and coarse, absolutely use it. fediverse isn't safe by design and most of the moderation tools in fedi softwares were an afterthought. privileged folks rarely consider the social effects & think it's no big deal so it's not a cornerstone of their designs. like u probably already know how to this day dm-style posts are completely readable thru the network and access control is only enforced on the edges.
idk ur specific instance's needs and it's the first time i interacted with it i think. i may be missing context around this post. happy to see the effort to make a safe space for black queers though.

i was just disagreeing with your take -- likening people who are upset with blocklists to abusers & then framing instance blocks (usually a single person or small group of people's decision, made for and against a large number of people), to be a personal boundaries thing..
instance blocklists are admins collectivising their moderation work, not users collectivising their personal boundaries. it's a centralisation & reduction of value systems onto (sometimes algorithmic!) efforts made by the few with their prejudices at play. it is wholly antidemocratic and a problematic accumulation of power if u wanna look at it philosophically.

then i was providing evidence for why being upset about it could be legitimate.

so yea this is a general systems issue from my single user instance pov. you for example could be having no ideological problems with people who don't use mastodon software, there's no precedent of them harassing black queers and some could be queer instances themselves, but a good chunk of a blocklist you might've applied could be blocked for that reason. i think there's something deeply wrong with this wholesale approach for that reason.
the alternative option of just letting moderation happen organically as you interact with a slowly expanding federation circle isn't that great for everyone either. it exposes the admin and the users to unsavory things at least once before the block happens.

i'm hoping we're not satisfied with either approach and we come up with something better for moderating federated networks.

what's tbs btw?