a lot of it comes down to stuff that women don't like, but is irrelevant to men, like if somebody just says mean words to a man they're pretty much expected to cope and carry on.
I have gone on my merry way a lot of the time. I've been harassed and sexually harassed by people in the free software community. Even in corporate environments as a 18 year old I've had CEOs openly tell me that they believe women are intellectually inferior right after hiring me. It is no surprise that misogyny is rampant in tech, when it is so pervasive in women's everyday lives.
People say mean and fucked up shit to me all the time, for the sole reason that I am a Brown Woman. Nobody comes to bat for me and I don't expect them to. But to act as if women as a whole are coddled or a protected class in tech is a reflection of misogyny.