@Ree I have been there. It is important to recognise your emotions and to meet your needs, this is a part of having emotional resilience. But this doesn't mean that you lash out at other people, that you tell everyone what is happening. You need to find a few people that you can trust to talk through things until you get better at recognising this in yourself. When you can do this check yourself then it gets easier. You may want to see a professional or read a self-help book for some exercises on this and see what is helpful.