@iwillbite @Paulajak @jesu
trick is to find dude who's quite shy. even if he doesn't like you, he won't be mean. you look at him until he notices. you check whether he blushes. if he blushes sufficiently, you go over and ask for cofe at convenient juncture. almost zero risk. if he says no, you can think it's the shyness :ChenShrug: