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It IS worth noting that a commong gripe among young women here is that the boys simply don't pursue them at all.

I know, it's funny, it's cathartic, I like hearing it too. It's funny to see a pretty 19 yo throw her hands up in anxious confusion because "nobody even turns to look at me at school?!?! I MUST be ugly or else I would have been on ONE SINGLE DATE IN MY ENTIRE LIFE!!!!"

BUT - we need these girls to make families. I've mentioned before that my family has a good handful of high-tier women, and they're all universally dating by now. The older folks are always raising their eyebrows at these boyfriends, because.....they're sixes. Kind of weird looking, bad haircuts, slovenly, disinterested, bland, but somehow able to snag girls that are 7-8s out of 10. When we sit there at the BBQ it becomes pretty clear that these girls are just brainwashing themselves into loving the ONE white guy that showed a modicum of the chase. It's great to see, because it tells me (despite my confusion) that it's much more achievable than I'd ever thought.

My girl didn't really have suitors in her age group, they were too hands-off and standoffish to make a move. She tried to go out and have the teenage experiences, so she did group hangs, tried to go to dances, all that - and she never really had a guy that would put himself out there to date her. She even asked a guy to a school dance, and then he ghosted her the day of because he "lost track of time, my buddies wanted to play and I just didn't check my phone all night". The guy literally chose calloduty over one of the cutest women I've ever met, it's utterly insane to me (assuming she's telling the truth, it still seems insane to me). Everyone is fuggin' broken, man. They're anxious, neurotic, ghosting machines where they just don't show up to these things because they get in their heads and spin it into a panic attack. And it's easier to stay at home than go out. (understandable)

(I guess I ought to talk about the unfortunate drawbacks of really hot women. There IS a level of pretty that ends up making women less approachable, because guys end up thinking they don't have a shot, and they just friendzone themselves and admire her from afar. Anyone w/ a FZ 8/10 knows that pain of meeting her years later and hearing "oh man I had the BIGGEST crush on you". You realize you had a shot all along