@izaya me being asexual meant that I kinda caused collateral damage by existing, somehow, and we had more than one dude be a playboy with like... date all the girls as a goal?? But also good at making each individual feel like they'd be different.

In college there were some clicky groups but none of them mattered unless you wanted them to matter, there was no ostracism or anything and enough down to earth people that those were an outlier. But also, permanent loner, maybe my radar on that is broken.