To a certain degree i get it since my mom was obsessed with me calling every week when i went for work in Germany and she tells me constantly i'm dad's favourite.

I understand it, but they oscillate between needing to know constantly about me to not wanting to see me for a while. Like right now, my mom constantly talks about me leaving home or having my own place. But i bet she will demand photos or she will go visit to know if my house is not a wasteland of garbage