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Wife asked me today why so many kids are such a mess. Asked me in the context of some decent people she knows who have all kinds of problems at home despite that, despite all theirbest efforts. I could tell she was concerned as well about our son. What I said was there is no systemic forces on the side of the parents. All of those forces are actually in opposition to them. Even if they were actually neutral instead of antagonistic, socially children would still be messed up because there is no system for parents to fall back on.

What I mean by system is the various forces that make up a society, such as communities, culture, institutions, collective knowledge, etc. Individual parents now have to be able to replace all of those forces on their own, forces that could fill in the blanks. No parent now can say “well that’s how everyone else does it, so I’ll just do that too” when they’re not sure what to do.

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