And you're freaking out because this is very real, it's happening all around you, it might even be what ends up perishing you some day soon, so you have to get figuring out which of those four buckets anyone talking to you fits into, right the first time, under a tremendous amount of pressure and in a limited span of time; since your response to each bucket is going to be vastly different as a matter of self preservation and maintaining emotional cohesion.