You're constantly trying to figure out which of four basic buckets everyone talking to you about the subject, which to some degree is always your existence and lived experience, falls into:
- ppl who are hateful and want to get you
- ppl who don't want to get you but have internalized the narrative
- ppl who don't hate you and haven't internalized the narrative but resent their peace being disturbed
- ppl who understand what you're going through but express it differently than you would