@mint @lain @meowski

> Still, it's no more complex than making a reply in the first place.

The fedi version of the handshake problem was a problem to begin with. It's especially bad with deletes, but this isn't any good.

> Might have; deliveries table on all five instances I host have zero rows.

Yeah, I truncated it and then gutted the code that writes to it and that eliminated a big performance sink.

> caching on reverse proxy.

Something must have changed, because it used to add a row for every "POST /inbox".