attractive employed men are very desirable as they age. But I still like fucking her so why would I want that hassle? it just doesn't make sense. I knew this guy (i knew the woman he was married to) who went out boozing and started dating this bartender who had kids and fucking her while he was was at home, and he was spending her money. dude wtf is your problem. dating a woman while you're married? who has that kind of time.