Just be honest in admit the bottom line:
Some lives matter more to you than others.
Human life becomes cheaper and more easily discarded when they are not among the assortment of humans you feel closer to.
And you're okay with that.
The waving of a flag and an identity of tradition and common history matter more than a pile of dead bodies when the bodies belong to unwanted and uncared-for strangers.
Strangers who happened to live on the wrong side of a political line upon the land.