If you can not face the reality of what that same suffering and death would mean if it was inflicted upon the people you love and care about, again, you are among the reality challenged.
Your dream of safety in an unjust and war ridden nationalism is bound in a denial of the brutality that it all rests upon.
Turning from reality for the falsehood of an ideal does not excuse the brutality you have turned a blind eye to.
It never does.