no, i know humps... i feel like pursuing it is against my better judgement and i don't want to fall into a trap. i've just been so gaslit i feel like i can't even tell fact from fiction anymore.
loyalty is pretty simple to me too, but he had his insecurities and when things got a little out of control, people stepped into intervene and make sure i was okay. he still feels like this was betrayal. i won't bother with specs, but it was stupid.
he got over things and realized his own behaviour ended up being the thing that brought others into our shit (when he couldn't handle himself/lacked self-control/got violent/etc). it wasn't me being unfaithful to him, it was be honouring my own safety. i didn't have to go through what he was putting me through alone. i didn't want to walk away/give up, but i had the right to speak to people about my safety, especially when they couldn't turn a blind eye any longer...