>...because a tiny mail server with a few people on it, none of whom have ever sent any kind of bulk email, is a horrifying spam risk.

Most email services with the exception of maybe mailchimp and proton do that.

Happens with me too, I just have constant communication and whitelist the sender if I detect it in the spam folder.
Most likely, at least in my experience, the url may have been identified as spam and was indicated as much. Companies get that automatically and auto generate spam lists.

>Poking graf and getting dropped from Poast isn't a big deal

Sure it isn't the worst thing that has happen to me by a long shot, but to pay server and getting defed for only one person getting butt hurt is pretty pathetic. And poast isn't the only instance I'm talking about.

Imagine defederating seal.cafe because of only bot.
It's very petty if you ask me to hide your users to an entire instance because of 1 user.

Issues with users for being "mean" should be handled by user settings (aka block) first than the big ol ban hammer.

Also not to mention his fuckery with reporting instances to their datacenter to take down sites he dislikes.

> but Google isn't the only ones,
> What's that matter?

Because any company big or small should not take and sell your data period.