There is just a ton of generalizing and black pilling the single guys around here that I don't think is helpful. As if there is some idealized reality and you can't accept anything less. As a person who has been with the same woman for many decades, my 2 cents is find someone you love and dont' want to be without, and the rest will fall into place. But if you're making a cheat sheet of all these boxes she must tick, you're going to end up disappointed.