@fuat2mb If this helps. A few years ago an ex-lover and I got back in touch. Her marriage was on the rocks and she wanted to fool around. I really wanted to F**K her. Relying on my desire to be good was insufficient. Focusing on my love for her, made it easy to say no. Committing adultery with her, was not in her interest. I could not give her long term emotional/life support she needed. Her husband could. They repaired there marriage :)