It's getting a bit nerve-wracking to self host stuff, but on the other hand I'm unsure if there's a better home for my presence.
Starnix seemed fine, but it seems people are peeved not at what actually happens, but by the fact that there is no overarching moderation in case of mild annoyances (that some could call harassment). I'm not there because "free zpeech my politic oponion!!!" as much as just to be in a place with no general topic or obligations.