@shibao I spent a lot of years just trying to stay afloat while my wife worked through medical and mental issues, finally finding a medication cocktail so she can be stable and find a career. Sadly two incomes are required for the type of life most people want to live these days, that's just reality. But once we got there, I was able yo handle a car payment, help my parents, buy a house, settle into healthier patterns, etc.