@morothar I feel you. I am in the process of removing my facial hair for my own sake, but I have a number of similar markers that cause people to default to "man" with me. I'm not in HRT and I have pretty strong upper body muscles, so unless I wear a push-up bra to create the illusion of boobs big enough to match my chest and shoulders, strangers default me to man. And I have a decent femme voice but I don't often deploy it because I'm self conscious. The #nonbinary struggle is real.