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Last boost: being an AMAB enby does make things incredibly hostile, from the nonbinary community and queer community in general, and obviously from outside people as well.

I existed in this space before discovering I was transfemme, and in some ways it's objectively more hostile. Like, now I can exist in most spaces and be perceived as a woman, but back then I couldn't, I was just always defaulted to a man, in subtle ways by queer people who used they/them pronouns for me even, and blatant ways by the rest of society.

Also, tbc, despite that I personally used that nonbinary space to discover that I was indeed a trans woman (though tbc I still am nonbinary), for some people that's just who they are. I really wish some of my fellow transfemmes would stop assuming all of them are eggs**.

**Though also, to keep the nuance in it, any belief that transfemme people are forcing TME to transition with a thick culture of egg-hunting is silly and transmisogynistic, we transfemmes don't have nearly that much power and this belief system isn't common with all of us. I just think a lot of messy interactions can be avoided if we give people the benefit of the doubt in understanding their own gender identity, and giving them guidance only when solicited.