@creamqueen a lot of gay people develop a complex when they grow up. they see queens in public or on tv being extremely annoying dressed like clowns and they think "I'm not like that, I must be special." many stay in the closet out of sheer embarrassment and become gaycels. they feel alienated and isolated. this is mainly why the annoying ones are behind the wheel driving queer theory with their activism. most of the gay people who aren't going out of their way to be seen are not inclined to participate in activism or advocate for themselves as a group.