@tjradcliffe If we cannot say "[as a relationship expert, here is a thing I see many relationships suffer from, and that anyone in a relationship would do well to keep in mind]" without being libertarians that believe in unfettered free will unaffacted by nature or nurture, what can we say about any behaviors at all?
Is improving one's life at all possible? Can people change?
I appreciate the advice and I recognize the problem, having been on both sides of it.