Actually, there’s an even worse bit about patriarchy: the categorically false assumption that only certain bits of patriarchy need dismantling and those bits are exclusively for men to deal while non-men await their liberation.
Imagine being a person who believes a system designed to shoehorn everyone into a rigid form of order and oppression can be taken apart by only focusing on half of the disparities.
It’d just be easier to say you hate men and keep it pushing.