next: the importance of self advocacy
nobody is going to advocate for your experience of transness except you.
there are a lot of reasons for this, some innocent and some sinister.
assert your name and pronouns; do not compromise without having a discussion first. if someone tries their best, but the cistem won't allow them to enact your request, have the grace to accept it.
if you make a reasonable request and it's not honoured - raise a fuss.