@eris I'm sorry that happened to you, but surely you understand how mono people are treated as default in the vast majority of cases in society so there might be a reason why some, not all, polyam people would feel the desire to talk about their relationships in a revolutionary way. I don't want to do that in quite this way, but there's nothing about any perceived superiority and, if that's how you're reading the situation, I'd invite you to consider what I said earlier in this reply.