That is to say, there are some good ideas on both sides of the "big fedi" and "small fedi".
Most of all we need "sustainable fedi".
A fediverse where we can both keep people safe, but also have a sizeable population because people don't want to be alone on the fedi.
We need moderation that scales and has repeatable practices, but we also need humans involved, and understanding how moderation can harm marginalised communities & reinforces cis-hetero-normative white ideals.