@ContraindiKate I'm in awe of you sending that - I so often chicken out of those conversations. You sound so strong in that email - I'm going to save that for future inspiration. I think sometimes I revert to thinking we're being annoying or damaging the relationship by taking the precautions we're taking, but no, we're not, and like you said we do this *every* day - surely they can put in the effort for a few weeks if they want to see us.