Please read this several times. Take the time to think about it for a few days and talk it over together before you respond to me.
We hope that you will put in the effort necessary to visit us while ensuring that I can remain alive and not be further disabled by your visit. We recognize that this is a lot of effort for you -- both logistically and emotionally. But this is our life, every day, all the time. We hope you will feel that visiting us in this life is worth the effort.
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