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@lirazel @thalassa this sounds pretty agender of you, I've got to say! :P

your thoughts here remind me a lot of the efforts I used to go through to try to understand romantic attraction/interest, as an aromantic person. everything alloromantic people ever said to me about trying to explain what distinguishes romantic feelings and relationships from other forms of love felt to me like just social constructions of what is or isn't considered the "right" way to show affection within a certain framework of relationship. but I'm told that there is something inherently different about the feeling! I eventually came to a place of just being like, "you do you and I don't have to understand it, I'm glad you're having fun with your thing." but I will admit that it secretly still seems super fake, lol.

(for whatever reason, despite being agender, having an inherent gender identity does make more sense to me. idek!)